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Re: Day 304, evening
Re: Day 304, evening
Sort of.
If you really care about someone, you want what's best for them, no matter what. Even if whatever's best for them doesn't match up with whatever you want for yourself, they matter more to you than that. You might disagree about what is best for them--people run from themselves, sometimes, or from what they truly want. But you talk to them about it, because you respect their opinions and choices, and even if you get angry or fight, you can come to an understanding, because hopefully they want what's best for you and themselves as well.
Possession is--different. Some people around you will want something else, more than they want you to do what's best for you. They might want to--to use you, for some gain of their own. Or perhaps it's more complicated than that--they want you to be safe, or to stay with them. But even then . . . if that desire is stronger than the desire to do the right thing by you, you can't say they truly care for you. Because sooner or later, you'll find yourself in a situation where you want or need something that conflicts with their desire, and you'll find that whatever relationship you thought you had falls apart. You can't rely on people who think that way.
So it's important to be clear about the difference. Do you understand what I'm saying?
Re: Day 304, evening
...I think I understand. When you want to keep someone by your side so much you don't care if they want to leave...That's 'possession' and not 'caring'. Caring is about letting someone do stupid stuff, because you respect them enough to know they won't be too stupid.
Is that right?
Re: Day 304, evening
Re: Day 304, evening
[goes quiet for a moment]
Prince and I both got possessive of Pitch for a while, and we wouldn't let him get hurt in games even if it was his turn. Then he got angry at us and told us to stop and we let him do a task.
I think Prince learned to be a bit better since then.
Re: Day 304, evening
doesn't quite seem happy with that, but]
I see. Just be careful--with everyone that you meet and become close too. --I'll trust your judgment.
Re: Day 304, evening
Did Prince do something that hurt you? Or did someone else...?
Re: Day 304, evening
Nothing like that. I simply worry about you.
Re: Day 304, evening
[a pause]
But I worry about you guys too. So I understand a little.